Monthly Archives: January 2014

Outside Your Comfort Zone

By Jessica Rector

Are you destined for greatness? Absolutely. So what’s holding you back? You’re familiar with where you are now. It’s comfortable, yet you aren’t really where you’re supposed to be. You’re not doing what you’re supposed to be doing. You’re not reaching the people who need you most.

I’m a HUGE proponent of stepping outside your comfort zone. I’ve been fortunate to do some fun and exciting things when I’ve done it. I’ve studied abroad in Norway and volunteered in Africa. I’ve gone parasailing, skydiving, dog sledding and shark diving. None of those compared to what I did this past week.

I went to a conference for four days and three nights, and I left my baby (about 11 months old) at home. Yes, that was harder than going to a third world country and jumping out of a plane. Why? His voice is the first sound I hear every morning, and as a single mom I’m the only one who puts him to sleep at night. I’ve been to about five or six conferences this year, but each time, my son came with me. This time he didn’t.

I was attending a mindset retreat. When I made the decision to leave him at home in the care of my sister and mom, I didn’t know if it would help or hurt me…would I be missing him so much that I wouldn’t be focused or would I still be able to concentrate more since I wouldn’t be distracted?

I always loved the Garth Brooks song, “Standing Outside the Fire.” To me, it’s about stepping outside your comfort zone. You are merely surviving if you aren’t standing outside the fire. If you choose to remain inside where it’s comfie, you will never truly experience what life has to offer.

Although I was scared, this was an opportunity, so I leapt. He had a fever ranging from 102.9 to 104.9 in the two days prior to my leaving, so I was even more nervous departing when he didn’t feel good. The morning I left, his temperature was just over 100, but I knew he was in great hands.

On the plane, I fell asleep. A baby sitting across the aisle and back a row cried several times. I kept waking up thinking for a brief moment it was my son. I am definitely a mama…calling every couple of hours to check on him–how’s his temperature, what’s he eating, how is he sleeping? As I went to sleep the first night, I was okay. It was incredibly strange waking up the next morning and not hearing him first thing, but I was eager for the conference, what it would hold, and meeting new people.

That day went by quickly. However, every time I called for him, he was sleeping. Emotionally I felt okay, because his temperature was going down. The following day was rough. I woke up in a great mood, but when the conference host mentioned the homework from the previous day, it hit me. I thought about how having a baby prepared me for the assignment, and I broke down thinking about my son.

Then the water works came and came and came. They just wouldn’t stop. Just the mere thought of him produced enough water to hydrate 1,000 people in a desert. Lucky for me, the conference supplied tissue. During the first break, I called my mom who put him “on the phone.” So just “talking” to him (as much as you can really talk to an 11-month-old) made me feel so much better. I was missing him miserably…not being able to hold, kiss, hug, or even touch him was getting to me. I missed the sound of his voice, his laughter, and his smile. After our phone conversation, I felt so much better.

The last day came and went fast, and I couldn’t get home quickly enough to see him. I opened the door, and he turned to see me running toward him. It took a minute for it to register who I was. Then he gave me a HUGE smile. I picked him up, kissing and hugging him. I just wanted to hold and cuddle with him. He let me for a short while. Then in typical fashion, he got restless and wanted down.

As I watched him make his way across the room, my heart filled up. I had my boy in my sights and able to love on him. My heart ached the third day, and I was an emotional wreck. I also knew stepping outside my comfort zone was needed…no matter how hard it is. That’s when I need to do it the most. It builds strength, and continually challenging myself allows me to grow.

You never really know what you can achieve unless you get out of your comfort zone. It’s hard. Our comfort zones are comfie, routine, and habitual. But the only way to true GREATNESS can only happen when you step outside your comfort zone. Don’t hesitate.

You might be scared. Take a small step. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. When you were a child, riding a bike seemed so difficult. You probably started with training wheels. You had to get your balance and increase your self-confidence. The first time without training wheels, you were probably wobbly. You may have even fallen. Once you rode over and over, it became second nature to you. You could have done it at any time without fear.

Take a small step–put on your training wheels if needed. Just do it. Then it will be something you continually want to do, because you’ll experience GREATNESS! So, the harder it is, the more it’s saying you NEED to do it! So take a leap and jump outside your comfort zone. It may be the best decision you’ll ever make.

As a single mom and founder of The Single Mom Movement, Jessica Rector knows how single moms are overwhelmed, exhausted, and stressed. With targeted private coaching, programs, and a school, she connects single moms to happiness, fulfillment, and empowerment by using her proven strategies. Clients praise Jessica for them experiencing massive results after one session.

How To Be An Alpha Male And Get the Girl Of Your Dreams

By John Stone

It is no secret that every single man is motivated by a beautiful woman. Beautiful women is what makes the world function. One of the biggest motivators for men is women, which is why so many men aspire to acquire things that will attract a beautiful women. Contrary to popular belief, you really don’t need to have a fancy car or expensive clothes, or strikingly good looks in order to attract a beautiful woman. There is much more you can do that will work in your favor in order to get the girl of your dreams.

Personalty is key as well, and one of the biggest things you can do is work on yourself first. Focus on improving yourself, and girls will be attracted to you. If you focus on improving your own appearance, you will increase your confidence. No matter how attractive or unattractive you may think you are now, anyone can see improvement with a few easy steps. Once you’ve focused on improving your looks that best you can, you need to focus on improving your personality. This is not to say that you need to change who you are or try to pretend to be someone you are not. What this means it that you need to focus on self improvement on all levels. Reach out, try new hobbies, volunteer, do something you’ve never done before. By doing things you’ve never done before you may end up meeting a girl you’ve never even imagined.

When you have yourself in a situation where you are confident, now you can get into more of the details on attracting women. Be sure to dress the part, smell nice, and give off the vibe that you are sure of yourself. Women are attracted to a guy with confidence more than anything. Be unique too. Every guy in the world uses the same compliments, same pickup lines, and same strategies as every other guy out there. Be unique, pickup a good book that will teach you self improvement and how to meet and attract beautiful women.

There are a lot of good books out there for learning how to attract a beautiful woman, many will outline steps and guidelines of exactly what you have to do. You need to focus on yourself first, and then follow some easy steps and you’ll soon become much more attractive to women than you ever realized possible.

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Personal Development Made Easier With These Ideas

By Wendy Miller

Become a healthier and happier person by working on yourself. Develop goals of personal development, stick to them and see them manifest in your life in positive ways. Working on yourself allows relationships to deepen, doors to open, and you can gain a more positive outlook on life in general. Follow these tips to develop yourself in a positive manner.

The most critical way to improve your mental outlook and sense of purpose is to believe in something larger than yourself. Search for something (a cause, a purpose, a religion, etc.) that moves you. You must believe in this intrinsic merits of this cause in themselves; if you pursue it simply for your own benefit, you will be disappointed. Find something you believe in and immerse yourself in it.

A great self help tip that can help you turn your life around is to start communicating with people that you trust and people that support you. Having people around that can listen to you and be there for you can be a great tool in climbing out of a depression.

Don’t just fill your mind with facts. It’s one thing to learn the steps to a process, and entirely another to feel them as they become integrated into your being. An idea must sit in your mind and undergo digestion and analytical thought before you can benefit fully from the information you have taken in.

Identify your current strengths before you try to change your perceived weaknesses. A key component of personal development is having a true understanding of your whole self. Unfortunately, personal development often focuses only on weaknesses. Often, improving an already developed strength may be more helpful to achieving your long-term goals.

Learn to tolerate other peoples’ discomfort with the word no. Everyone needs to say no to somethings. Otherwise, the other people in our lives will take as much of our time and resources as we have to give them. When someone hears no and reacts negatively, it’s more about them than you. If they persist, ask why they expect you to say no to your own family, health, goals, etc. just so you can say yes to them. Only say yes when it’s something you truly want.

Tell other people positive things. If you are kind to other people, you will be kind to yourself.

Consult a hairdresser! There are several aspects of conveying the image you need to portray either in your home life or at work. All the fancy clothing in the world won’t make up for a bad haircut or style. Hairdressers are trained to give you the cut and style that you need to provide the visual assurance others need to conclude you are capable.

Concentrate on getting through one day at a time. Sometimes, in the very beginning of trying to stop a bad habit or to implement better behavior we have to think in even smaller time increments. Very few people can make big changes all at once and be one-hundred percent successful.

Before you allow yourself to react in anger, ask yourself this: What is the worst possible consequence that could arise from giving in to my anger? More often than not, you will find that the worst possible outcome – violence, legal problems, jail- is simply not worth the brief release of giving in to your temper.

Setting goals that are clear is really going to help you in many aspects of your life. If you can provide your brain with simple and specific goals to reach, you will find them easier to accomplish. Your brain will better be able to accomplish helping you reach these goals if you keep them very specific.

Coaching yourself is great, however, listening to yourself is even greater. Self-analysis is an important part of personal development as long as you are willing to be judiciously critical and an eager respondent. Learning from your mistakes and faults is almost as important as how you act on that knowledge.

As you can see, these tips are easily included in your everyday life. Learning them takes little time out of your day and just a bit of practice. As you progress, you will find that life seems a little brighter, relationships seem easier and the world around you will seem a little more inviting.

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