Who Are You Supposed To Be?

By Jessica Rector

What does it mean to be yourself? How are you supposed to be or act? Like who you think you are, who others think you are, who you want to be, or how you want to be perceived?

How much of yourself are you showing to others? You go to work, don’t ruffle any feathers, and then leave. You don’t say too much and aren’t really seen. Your boss barely acknowledges you or knows your name. You try to fly under the radar. You can’t afford to lose this job and have to look for another one. So you don’t do or say too much…just enough to get by.

As you leave each day, you’re unhappy, unfulfilled, but don’t know how to change it or what to do. You think you do a great job at work. So what if you’re not the most talkative or most outgoing. If they knew you outside of work, you are great, but you feel like you’re not quite yourself at work. How can you be, when you feel like you’re walking on eggshells?

You just don’t want too much attention brought your way. Every time you walk through the doors of work, you feel like you’re opening the door to existing…a life of existing, and who wants to just exist?! You want t live. You want to be happy. You want to thrive. This job just isn’t your dream job. You always wanted to be a singer, writer, teacher, manager, or Vice President. You just didn’t want to do this. You had kids and now your career is stuck, stagnant, stale, and you just don’t know how to change it.

How can you tell your kids they can be or do anything if you’re not doing it? If you aren’t taking steps to do that for yourself? Your career isn’t done. Your life isn’t over, so start living it by doing what you want. So maybe it won’t happen to you tomorrow or even in a few months. If you take steps today toward it, it will definitely happen. You’ll start love going to work. You’ll be excited to do the job you’re meant to do.

I remember a Graduate School Professor saying to our class, when you find your calling, you will never feel like you are working. Something resonated with me so much when he said that. I just knew I would one day find what my purpose was, and then it would never feel like work–because I’d love doing it every day. What that looked like, I really didn’t know, but I knew that it could exist one day for me.

When you do find it, you won’t be asking how are you supposed to act or be or how you want others to perceive you. You will be liberated and free. You’ll be able to be completely who you are–goofy, introverted, outspoken, funny, or a leader. People will love you because you are being exactly who you’re supposed to be.

As a single mom and founder of The Single Mom Movement, Jessica Rector is determined to educate and empower single moms. Single motherhood affects everyone. You can Join The Movement, Become An Advocate, or Partner with Us. Do you feel isolated? CLICK HERE and never feel alone. Single moms CLICK HERE for FREE 50 Resources Every Single Mom Needs.

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