What Is Love?

By Paul A Philips

One of the most googled questions ever is “What is love?” So, in view of its popularity alone I felt compelled to look into this. I hope that those reading my response will get some insights. An insight is something you get which allows you to achieve something that could not have been achieved had it not been for that insight.

So, here’s my answer to that very pertinent question ‘what is love?’ Here are the insights: What I have gained from learning about love.

Love is…

1 Having a deep and genuine love for yourself. How do you expect the cycle of love to come back on you when you haven’t began with a real deep and genuine love, compassion and acceptance for yourself?

2 An innate love or natural urge towards partnership; caring for one’s spouse, family and children…

3 An innate love towards groups; being in teams and teamwork.

4 An innate love of the human race. A natural want to care for cultures, communities, preserve populations… etc.

5 An innate love and natural instinctive urge to want to care for the life on this planet.

6 An innate love for Mother Earth; the environment…

7 Having an innate love for all things spiritual.

8 An innate love for God, Goddess, All-There-Is. (I have written it in this form to avoid a narrow interpretation). Notice if you turn 8 at right angles it becomes: ∞ which is infinity!

Love means accepting a loved one for the way they are or the way they are not. -For me, this is the single most effective insight I have ever gained and learned about love.

For further insight it is also very effective to know what love is not

Love is NOT:

Thinking the person you love is like the car you have, or the clothes you’re wearing. That is, love is not possession.

Love is not belongingness, feelings, emotions, chemistry or domination… All these things can only be the effects of love. Tie these things in with the false understanding they are love then this could lead to confusion or victimhood drama. Learn to discern what love actually is when these things show up in your life.

So, above all, I would say, do realize that love is something that we do not understand.

I indeed hope that this all to brief little tour through love has allowed you the reader to get some useful insights.

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Overcoming Victim Consciousness: The Power Lies Within You!

By Paul A Philips

For generation upon generation the human race has been mislead into thinking that cause and effect in life over many different things is something external to them and in doing so have become victims through their own making: Victims because they have designated the responsibility and power of cause and effect over things to someone or some other external source.

How do you expect to be effective in life if you think that the circumstances are outside of your control..?

To overcome the pains and frustrations of victimhood, to take control of their lives or rightful ownership, humans must realize that responsibility is something to be embraced, not shrugged. Thus, the power lies within you and it is from this the shift from ‘victim’ to ‘victor’ will result.

Here are some examples to explain.

The medical/pharmaceutical establishment has intervened in human health to such an extent that many only see the destiny of their wellbeing in the hands of a doctor… Truth is, doctors know a lot about illness but because they have had little training in nutrition or naturopathy know far less than many people realise when it comes to health and well-being.

The solution is to take responsibility for your health. Health and wellbeing exists in making sure you get yourself good nutrition, have an effective outlook on life, exercise and avoid toxicity.

In many religions the human race has been misleading into thinking that God is something external to them: the “Big Boss in the sky” concept comes up a lot. How can people blindly accept the idea that this unimaginably big God created them as tiny, tiny creatures then demands that they worship Him and gets angry and jealous along the way..? If this is the case then God has quite an ego problem! The “Big Boss in the sky” concept is a deception. It has been manufactured to mind control and manipulate people into passivity for power; profit and political gain.

Who you really are is an extension of God, Goddess, All-There-Is, so the power to make things manifest comes from within you.

Whether through ignorance, apathy, deception or laziness… the human race has allowed uncaring, highly corrupt and sometimes even psychotic individuals to run their political affairs. To take back our rightful ownership of this planet certain people are needed look into political affairs and assert themselves as genuine, caring, independent individuals, separate to the corrupt major political parties currently running for office…

This will take time to go into effect but as increasing numbers of successful independent candidates form, the more effective they will be at expressing the real voice of We-the-people united in a common humane cause.

On similar lines with politics, the lawmakers have made certain rules and regulations favouring the rich and powerful with their agendas receiving few responses in the way of protest from the people at large… Again We-the-people need to assert laws based what is decent, fair and honest.

Basically, in education, young people have been brought up and trained to fit into the boxes made for them by the system: After leaving the system, like a cog-in-the-wheel they will fit into and function in one of these boxes designed to make money for the corporate driven greed machine…

Who you really are is an ‘individual.’ When someone or something like the education system programmes you to become a cog-in-the-wheel you lose your power by not being able to think, feel and be yourself. Thus you become a victim. Indeed the solution is to escape; think, feel and be yourself.

Then there’s those who have been mislead into believing that ET’s will rescue the human race and their sinking ship planet Earth. One of the hallmarks of a victims is that they think they will be rescued. True, the people and the planet need serious attention but ultimately only we can recue ourselves and Mother Earth…

In summary

Like all the above circumstances, the shift from victim to victor starts with the realization that the power lies within you.

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Quick Self Help Techniques

By Ravey Dio

Sometimes we are confused of what to do next with our lives especially when we are overwhelmed by the large amounts of information that we store in our minds. The human brain has a huge capacity to store data however this data can be corrupted with the dreaded mind set of negativity. When we have negative thoughts, it deteriorates our self esteem thus our belief in ourselves and confidence that we can surpass any challenge. Self help techniques aid us to give more importance to positive thoughts over negative and to improve self esteem which is a huge factor in achieving personal success.

There are many people who have changed their lives positively by using self help techniques. These techniques can be found in subliminal tools, self help books and personal development training courses. When we flood our mind with good, positive thoughts, there will be no room for negative thought. You will have solutions to most of your problems as you will believe more in your decision making skills and not underestimate abilities.

Here are some self help techniques to quickly switch from negative to positive outlook in life:

Goal Setting

Spare some of your time in this goal setting process. Sit down and write down all your goals in a notebook. Your goals for tomorrow or even in the near future are valid, so long as it is realistic. This self help technique can help you focus on your goals especially when you are de-motivated or stressed. You may read this notebook again and again especially when you are in doubt as it will serve as your energy transmitter to your mind and body and motivate you.

Inspirational Quotes

Inspirational quotes can be found anywhere and everywhere, whether it be online, subliminal audio or within the pages of Self Help Books. These quotes can be a great help especially in when you are most tired and if you have encountered some frustrating barriers to reaching your goals. The quotes can be about success, life purpose, business development, reaching dreams and more it depends on how you feel at the time. It is best to read quotes in your room where it is peaceful so that you can really absorb them consciously and sub-consciously.

Motivational Videos with True Stories

A great self help technique is that watching people succeed. You may watch videos with true stories from people who achieved their goals. There are also motivational videos with reenactments on how these successful people struggled in the past and how they coped with issues and reached their dreams. You can also learn more techniques or tools on improving self esteem and establishing positive outlook in life. Schedule a day to watch videos as you hardly notice time fly by when you are enjoying the videos.

These quick self help techniques are the most affordable methods available, you only need to spare a little time for them and an open mind. However, each can provide a long term effect when you decide to act it open each suggestion.

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Simple And Effective Self Help Tips For Today

By Charlie Badderly

Don’t allow a lack of knowledge to stunt your own personal development. There are a lot of things that you can do over time to accomplish your goals. This article will give you lots of practical tips and the knowledge so that you can make this happen.

Personal development requires constant attention in that you need to remain motivated and consistent with your actions and emotions. Stay positive and stick to your plan. Keep your plan simple at first and gradually build on to it. This will ensure you won’t be tempted to quit or get off track.

Don’t be afraid to complement other people on the things that make them great, even if he or she is a perfect stranger. Receiving a heartfelt compliment from someone you love is uplifting. But think about how wonderful it feels when someone who you do not even know comes-up to you and gives you a killer compliment.

Considerations about personal development often stems from either a clear or muddled indication in ones life that lends to a bit of self evaluation. Ensuring that your personal development is in par with the goals, responsibilities and relationships you hope to maintain and nurture is extremely important.

Try finding out what you want out of life and what you hold dear in your life. Try to figure out what your personal values are and how you apply them to your life. You need to be aware of what is important to you and what in your life gives you pleasure and pain.

If you battle self-consciousness or self-esteem deficits, never overlook the transforming power of an especially sharp outfit. Making an effort to put together a highly polished and “with-it” look can increase one’s confidence the second he or she steps out of the front door. Avoid throwing on just anything before you leave the house; do your self-esteem a great favor and go the extra mile to create a polished look for yourself.

An important tip that will improve every area of your life is to get a good night’s sleep. Intellectually we all know this already, but few of us take it to heart. Proper rest is essential to restore the body, but also to reduce stress and inflammation, protect our heart, regulate our hormones, and improve our memory. A good night’s sleep is 6-8 hours ” and some people need more. Your health and your outlook will improve greatly when you make a good night’s rest a serious priority.

Chronic anxiety can lead to major losses in terms of time, productivity, and emotional stability. One of the most direct ways to determine whether or not a problem is worth your concern is by determining foremost if it is a problem with a solution. If so, you should move to the next step: identifying possible solutions, not possible failures. If not, you might be afforded some relief simply by realizing that a problem with no solution really is not a problem.

When it comes to personal development be sure that you have a good background on the laws of nature. This is important because in order to fully appreciate everything around you, you need to understand it and respect it. In order to fully learn about yourself, you must know the laws that your body surrenders to.

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Best Personal Development Solutions For Positive Change

By Charlie Badderly

Keep lists of your progress daily. When you have completed these lists, don’t be so quick to throw them away. Just because the lists are complete does not mean that you are done with them. Try surrounding yourself with your progress by keeping them and displaying them. This can give you drive and let you know that you can accomplish your goals.

Research and learn from others. When you are working towards a goal in your life, seek out others who are either working towards or have already achieved your goal. Not only will they be able to provide support and answer questions, they can be used as examples illustrating exactly what you should or should not do to succeed.

On a daily basis, consider asking yourself each morning what is important for you to accomplish during the day. This will help you determine the ways you can spend your free moments and maximize your time through multitasking. Make a list, prioritize it and tell yourself that you will accomplish the things on your list.

An important tip that will improve every area of your life is to get a good night’s sleep. Intellectually we all know this already, but few of us take it to heart. Proper rest is essential to restore the body, but also to reduce stress and inflammation, protect our heart, regulate our hormones, and improve our memory. A good night’s sleep is 6-8 hours ” and some people need more. Your health and your outlook will improve greatly when you make a good night’s rest a serious priority.

Self help is not only for depressed people. Everyone has issues in their lives. Self help is not all about inner feelings. You can use self help to become more successful in your career, find a great hobby or discover your soul mate. No matter what is lacking to your life, self help can fulfill it.

Build your self confidence through practice! Whether you are a musician learning a new song or a child learning how to ride a bicycle, practice is a critical part of your development. Practice assures us that we can accomplish the desired task. It improves our self confidence and gives us the courage to step up on that stage.

Remember that it is entirely acceptable to be less than perfect. Perfection leaves no room for learning or improvement, yet these are two of the things that can make life so exciting and enjoyable. Assess your imperfections to determine what their likely effects are on your life. More than likely, you will find that even your flaws shape who you are and how you live.

Prioritize your time. If you put off doing something that you really want to do or enjoy doing so that you can take care of something that could have waited, you could find yourself full of regret by the end of the week. This may take some time to really incorporate into your life, but you will be happy that you did.

Try to maintain a positive outlook. An upbeat attitude can do wonders for your mood. Consciously try your hardest not to let yourself get too overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed – no matter what the problem. Just telling yourself that things will be alright can sometimes keep you feeling upbeat long enough to succeed in making that true.

One way you can instantly boost your mood or views on a troubling/stressful situation you may find yourself dealing with is to take a brisk walk. It can be around your block or further if you so choose. Exercise is an important part of keeping your mind and body active which will in turn, assist with your other personal developmental goals and aspirations.

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Wonderful Tips To Get The Self Help You Need

By Charlie Badderly

The key to personal development is simply willpower. When you decide to better yourself in some way, make sure you establish why you want to improve. Personal development can involve quite a bit of effort, so if you can always remind yourself why you want to continue to develop, you will be able to keep pushing yourself.

Personal development is often the province of aggressive planners. An overly-restrictive plan can be a hindrance to successful personal development, though. Plans need to remain flexible to cope with unexpected obstacles. When strategies prove unsuccessful, plans have to change to embrace alternative ideas. A flexible plan is always superior to a rigid one.

Work on discovering your personal strengths. Try making a list of the ones you know and try making a list of your weaknesses that hold you back from being the strong person that you think you are or could be. Even opinions from others, like friends or family, can give you some insight on how to better yourself.

Figure out what you want to do with yourself. This doesn’t mean that you need to map out your entire life in advance. Consider the next five years. Where do you want to be? What does your life look like? If you evaluate this vision you can pull apart the layers and determine the best course of action to get where you need to be.

Don’t ever be afraid to ask for help with your work. This can be very difficult if you are a person who has become used to doing everything themselves, but you need to learn to reach out and work with others. This is especially true if you work in a field that thrives on collaboration for group projects. You would be surprised at how much your group can get done.

In order to be successful with your journey of personal development, you need to have a sound foundation from which to build upon. Your success is determined by your own self image and confidence levels. These are two easy things you can boost, which will in turn assist you in successfully identifying all the things you would like to improve upon in your life.

Focusing on one or more of these personal development strategies is a great way for people to improve their lives. Anyone stuck in a rut and unhappy with the state of their life would be wise to apply these suggestions assiduously. Why wait any longer to be the person you’ve always wanted to be?

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Great Ways To Improve Your Life Through Personal Development

By Charlie Badderly

Personal development may be difficult, but you have every reason to start the process today. Personal development can propel your career, relationships and other areas of your life to new heights. You will also feel more confident about yourself and know for certain you are doing the right thing. This article will outline several quick, yet highly beneficial ways that you can start your personal development journey today.

A great self help tip is to keep a journal of your thoughts and feelings everyday. Keeping a journal like this can be a great way to express yourself. It’s not a good idea to hold things inside and keeping a simple journal can be a great outlet.

Carry yourself with pride. Personal development may be an intimate process, but you will find yourself walking with more confidence if you present a cohesive image to the world around you. Trying on new ways to project your true self allows you to toy with self-expression and builds your self confidence in the process.

Develop a sense of urgency. When you are trying to improve any aspect of your life, procrastination is your worst enemy. The longer you wait to get started on a task, the less likely that task is going to get done. The first step is always the hardest; once you get started, you will surprise yourself with what you can accomplish.

To increase your chances of success learn from others’ mistakes. There are many blogs, books and free seminars that you can attend that will help you set your own goals and guidelines. This helpful advise can give you direction and help you avoid mistakes; however, when you do make a mistake, and you will, learn from it and move on.

Give yourself a routine. Depression and similar negative moods can be caused by boredom, stress, and a wide variety of other things. Creating a routine for yourself and sticking to it can eliminate many of these factors. You will stay busy and accomplish far more with your day, alleviating potential guilt.

Personal development requires constant attention in that you need to remain motivated and consistent with your actions and emotions. Stay positive and stick to your plan. Keep your plan simple at first and gradually build on to it. This will ensure you won’t be tempted to quit or get off track.

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Maximize Your Hidden Potential With These 5 Self Help Ideas!

By Bonny Blake

Working on you and your personality is an important thing to do. It can take any form, from cultivating good money management skills to building a health-conscious lifestyle. Working on yourself is really important. Life will continue to offer you avenues to grow and develop as a person. New goals will always appear. If you start now to develop good habits, you will have a happier and healthier life.

Learn to recognize which obstacles are keeping you away from your goals. This seems to be hard from some people. However, if you can figure out what your weakness is, it’s the first step needed to change it. Once you address these obstacles, the path to success will become much clearer.

Always be ready to write down any ideas that you may have at any time or location. Carry paper and a pen around with you. This way, you will always be in a position to write down your thoughts and these can then be implemented at a later time when you have more freedom to act on them.

Live your life according to your values. All people have beliefs that tell what they are about. If you’ve got a decent foundation in order to defend them, you can boost your self-esteem. It also demonstrates to other people an admirable consistency. This is a trait that others will find attractive.

You have to be in good physical shape if you want your self improvement efforts to be as effective as possible. Keep your brain sharp and body energetic by getting enough sleep, exercise, and having a healthy diet. This will allow you to pursue your self improvement goals more wholeheartedly. It might seem easy, but it can prove to be very difficult.

Declaring lowliness is a crucial step in advancing in self improvement. Realizing that you are but a small part of the bigger picture will potentially open your mind to attaining new insights. A humble attitude puts you in the right mindset to learn new things and develop as a human being.

When building a self improvement plan, it is important to consider your personal values. If you go against your values, you are shooting yourself in the foot. You need to focus your energy on the things that do line up with your values. By doing so, you can make changes in your professional and personal life that will stick with you.

Your pastor or counselor is there to help. Not only have they been trained to deal in personal growth, their experience in these issues is what makes them a good choice to speak with. They can help you get on the right path to enlightenment by analyzing what is going on in your life. You may find that sharing your personal issues with a professional will open the door to health and happiness.

Do you consume alcohol more than you should? Do you use tobacco products or any other harmful things? Your body should be treated with the respect it deserves. Try getting rid of your bad habits; it can be important to making your life better. Take an honest look at your traits and proclivities and figure out where you can make changes.

Talking with a counselor or a pastor can be beneficial. These people have experience dealing with many of the issues you may be facing, and many are licensed to do so. These impartial listeners can provide a sympathetic ear or help you deal with troublesome areas of your life. Discussing problems with professionals will help your life be healthier and happier.

Now that you have some insight into personal development programs, take note of which tips you would like to try. Avoid being too hard on yourself.

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Take A Life-Long Journey To A Better You

When you daydream, do you dream about improving your life? Following is some advice that can get you on the way to self help.

If you avoid making decisions, then you are denying yourself opportunities. Choose not to live in fear of your decisions even if you do not have all of the information you desire. Great decisions encourage sharp instincts. Bad decisions have value though because they are experiences that teach lessons. If you make a wrong choice at one point, then you will ensure that your next one will be better.

To get the biggest benefits from personal development, make sure to physically take care of your body. Make sure you are getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and exercising on a regular schedule so that you have enough energy during the day, and you will find it will be a little easier to reach success. This sounds like obvious advice, but it’s sometimes hard to put into practice.

A self improvement software is another tool that you can include in your personal development toolbox if you prefer to use softwares.

Discover what is standing between you and your goals. Figuring this out is daunting for most people. However, being able to identify our weaknesses is the first step to addressing them and ultimately changing them. Take care to eliminate the obstacles that stand between you and the future that you wish to have.

If you care for your body, you will get the most out of your personal development. Always keep a healthy routine that includes exercise, diet, and sleep in order to be successful. While it may sound simple, this is sometimes one of the most difficult things to do.

Many people are unaware that diet can affect feelings of depression, as an increase in consumption of complex carbohydrates can help. Without adequate complex carbohydrates, your body may burn too quickly through serotonin. Eat more vegetables and fruits, whole grains, nuts and beans.

You need to have an emergency fund. Most of us depend on credit cards to pay for unexpected expenses. Putting a few dollars a week into an emergency fund will add up over time. Having an emergency fund will prevent you from having to use credit cards to pay for unexpected expenses, which will save you a great deal in interest over the years.

If you have had several consecutive failings, take a moment to analyze what you’re doing wrong. Compare your goals with the goals of others that you can research online. You also might find that your goals are indeed not realistic, or that some other critical resource is needed before your goal can be realized.

Therapy is indicated if you feel you cannot deal with your problems. Though self-help books and online resources are great, they typically will not offer as much as a one-on-one therapy session can. There are many times when talking with another person about a stressful situation is the most effective route to relaxation. A self-help book simply cannot provide the human interaction afforded by a therapist or counselor.

Make the important aspects of your life the focus of how you live. If you focus all of your thoughts on the things that really matter and quit dwelling on the negative things that do not matter at all, you are sure to find a greater inner peace.

Don’t use shopping as a comfort technique. Rather than spending time increasing your bills, you should aim to take up a hobby instead. By doing this, you’ll discover that your bills won’t be so high, which will decrease your stress levels and the clutter in your home.

Don’t waste your energy on the small things. If you focus all of your thoughts on the things that really matter and quit dwelling on the negative things that do not matter at all, you are sure to find a greater inner peace.

On the road to personal development, treat your body with respect. Get regular exercise and eat a healthy diet. If you feel sick, see your doctor to find out what the problem is so it can be corrected. Listen to what your body has to say. If you listen to your body, you will be in better shape. By shying away from problems, your body will likely do the same in the future.

You may experience excess stress when you overreact to difficult situations. Learn how to deal with your stress, and always analyze a situation carefully. It’s always possible to fix any mistake you have made, or manage a way to deal with it. Don’t focus on the things you have lost. Instead, focus on the things you have and are looking to attain.

On the road to personal development, treat your body with respect. When your body tells you that it needs something, such as food, drink, or medical care, then it should be a priority to give it what it is asking for. If you do this, your body will better serve you for the future. If you choose to ignore your body’s needs, there’s a good chance that it will ignore your wants.

Research positive habits that have helped others become successful. Pick out the most essential success habits from each person you research, then practice these habits until they embed themselves into your daily routine. You need to give yourself a bit of time to make your new habit a permanent one. So don’t give up on it until you have continuously used it for at least 21 days.

Living a healthy lifestyle is a critical part of your personal development. A healthy lifestyle includes working out and watching what kind of food you eat, and you must be able to acquire the characteristic of being able to remain motivated to do it. Put health at the pinnacle of your personal development plan to feel your best and to be more successful with all of your other life goals.

As you work with the tips, be sure to journal your thoughts and feelings and take particular note of any changes in your point of view. Give yourself a break.

Some Simple Personal Development Advice That You Should Take To Heart

By James Kupe

Self help is an essential part of life planning, but understanding it and applying it to your own life, can be tricky. There are so many things you can do and plan for to make changes to your life to live it better. Here are some steps you can take to ensure you accomplish that.

Part of any successful personal development program is finding your passion. Your goals in both the short- and long-term should be selected with this in mind. The personal satisfaction and fulfillment that comes from doing work you love should be a goal in and of itself. A goal that calls for work you hate, though, may be too hard to achieve.

Know what you stand for and make any needed adjustments! Identify and rectify your life principles. Everyone has a set of internal principles that guide their daily activities and interactions. These guiding principles are the foundation of our habits, attitudes and values. Bad habits stem from bad values, and a bad attitude comes from a bad or negative set of principles.

Work on controlling your anger and your overall temper. When things get rough and you get angry, try counting to 10 and slowing your breathing. Try relaxing or even walking away from what it is that is angering you so much. By taking that “time out,” you can come back with a clearer head to try to solve the problem.

Don’t be afraid to teach! Teaching others, whether it is teaching a child to tie their shoe or teaching a colleague at work to operate a new piece of complex machinery, is empowering. We don’t have to be experts ourselves to be ready to lend a helping hand when someone needs it.

Set a reasonable and achievable goal to focus on. From a personal development standpoint, you may want to set a short-term goal achievable in a few years and a long-term goal for the direction you want your life to go in over time. Whether your goals are professional or personal, having a clearly defined result helps you set a development plan.

Do one thing at a time. Much has been made of the ability to multi-task, and most of us do it. However, you’ll be much more satisfied if you start one task and focus on that one task until it’s completed. You can give everything in your life the attention it deserves.

If you are in need of some self help tips to deal with depression consider asking a friend or family member to check in on you regularly. Depression is an uphill battle and you may find yourself lacking motivation so its a great idea to have someone make the extra effort to see that you are doing okay.

As the beginning of this article has discussed, engaging in personal development can be a very challenging and intimidating task. However, if you are equipped with the right advice and information, improving yourself becomes a much easier goal to reach. Apply this article’s advice and be on your way to meeting your personal development goals.

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