Category Archives: personal change

Best Advice For Personal Development

By Charlie Badderly

It’s up to you to improve your life circumstances through a personal development growth plan (PDP). If you want success in your career or personal life, change unhealthy habits or character traits. A PDP is an essential ingredient. After you’ve done you’re plan, we look at some other self development blogs to get you even more inspired!

Decide what it is you want to change or improve in your life. Make a list of resources that will be helpful in making those changes. This list can include books, audio tapes or CD’s, web sites, software and online courses. Schedule a specific amount of time each day to use those resources in pursuit of your goals. Take notes on what you are learning. Taking notes will help you keep track of your progress. This will also provide you with tangible data if you plan to evaluate your efforts and developments toward your goal. Take action steps. Usually a good personal development book or course will have action steps included but if not, make up your own. Celebrate your success with a reward worthy of your efforts. Repeat until you experience the success you desire.

Having a list of goals will help you pinpoint what you want in your personal development growth plan. If you want to get out of debt, look for books on financial freedom.

Learn From Other People You can gain from the success of other people and you can learn from their mistakes. Your own experience is a harsh teacher so learn from the mistakes of others. If you can find a mentor or coach your task will be easier. Read as many books as you can. If you can’t afford to buy books or don’t want to spend the money borrow them from the library.

Do What You Like. Its no good doing things that you don’t like. Pick methods that appeal to you. Pick people to help you that you like. Make sure you are following your heart but don’t run from the hard issues. They need to be addressed one day.

Always give 100%. I learned this when I started lifting weights with a personal trainer. He would keep me doing bench presses until I literally could not move one single millimeter. And then he told me I had given 100%. The same rule applies to mental work too. Now I know what 100% means, I also know what 99% feels like. And I can tell you, it’s a bitch. You’re left with that nagging feeling that you didn’t give it all. So always give 100%, and then stop and go home. Or go do something else.

Let go of everything that’s good. Letting go of something good is the hardest thing to do. I recommend you only do it when it no longer makes you happy. I let go of a 60+ hours per week job. I kept the same job, just turned it into a 40+ hours job. I’ve always loved my job but at a certain point I felt something was missing. And it wasn’t something was missing in my job. Something was missing outside of my job. But the only way to add stuff into my life outside of my job was to let go of a part of my job first. At first I didn’t succeed because I hadn’t decided yet what I was going to replace those hours with. It was only when I decided what I wanted in other areas of my life that I managed to let go of part of my job. And now, every area of my life feels great, perhaps for the first time ever in my 35 years existence. Balance, I guess, is the right word. And funny enough, I love my job even more now.

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Small Steps Take Us the Greatest Distance

By Jenny Flintoft

When babies learn to walk, we congratulate every tiny step, every courageous wobble. We cheer all those tiny pieces of progress they make… Isn’t it funny how we don’t give ourselves that same encouragement and support as adults? Just because we’re “officially” grown up (and I reserve the right to be a big kid whenever I want!), we set ourselves mammoth tasks to achieve and then get disheartened when progress is slow!

The more I work with people who show a desire in “getting better” (whether that’s to be better in dealing with a challenging situation, better at leading others, better at dealing with difficult people), the more I have seen that grand gestures very rarely make the difference that lasts. It is those small steps – in and amongst the wobbles but constantly focused on “getting better” – which lead to sustained, meaningful change.

Here’s the trouble with people like me(!) I run events, workshops and seminars where I’m delighted to say I enable people to feel motivated, fired up and ready for change. I have testimonials and videos and emails from people who have left feeling they’ve had a real awakening and are going off to rock their worlds! Yay! LOVE that!

But what can sometimes happen after people attend an event, or a teleseminar, or read a self help book is they have the rush…..and then the comedown. Within a couple of weeks they think to themselves – “I’m no further forward. Nothing’s changed. That course/book/expert isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. This stuff DOESN’T WORK.” (Ever experienced that? Be honest!)

Being positive and focused on this stuff for one day or one week won’t do it. Doing twenty push ups a day isn’t going to give you a washboard stomach overnight (more’s the pity – sheesh). You’ve got to keep doing it, putting the effort and energy in – and only then will you start to see a return and some big changes in your life that you didn’t even notice happening at the time.

This is where a bit of patience comes in. You all know the principle of sowing and reaping, I’m sure. You reap the harvest after you’ve done the work. You dig the soil, plant the seeds, water the seeds (effort), wait a while (patience) and then you reap your harvest. Effort + patience = results/reward.

In this day and age, this principle is lost on people. We’ve lost the art of patience. So people ask – “If I plant my seeds today and put the work in, what do I get tomorrow?” And of course the answer is – wet seeds! Instant results are so rarely seen – we need to put in the consistent small action steps in order to see our results.

You don’t eat a meal in one gulp, you eat it one mouthful at a time. It’s exactly the same with these actions.

Pick something small – it may even seem insignificant – that you can work on. Get it into your skin and into your psyche. Then choose something else and do the same. Keep chipping away over a period of time and you’ll be surprised at how all those little steps and actions add up.

With small, simple actions, NO effort is wasted.

Whenever you try any action at first, it can seem as if you’re putting in loads of effort for very little return. Keep persevering, because all those actions and small steps added together and layered on top of one another will bring you the progress and the difference you’ve been seeking in your chosen area. And that’s a promise!

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From Jenny Flintoft – The Expert in helping you live Your Life – But Better!