Best Personal Development Tip – Accept Only What Brings You Joy, Yet Allow All

This article is about developing the most empowering approach, which is knowing that what you can learn and grow from expands your consciousness into a remembrance of the incredible power of love that lives within self. This type of allowance creates incredible joy and fulfillment because you are okay with yourself in all choices and in all moments.

Being okay with yourself in all situations doesn’t mean you have to like or accept what is occurring in your reality. Just be responsible that it was created exactly the way you wanted it because that is the way you have learned to give or receive your love/acceptance, worth or identity.

The mind is a computer and will only give back information you have given it. If you have recorded painful emotions surrounding your perception of love, it is those perceptions you project on any given subject, (i.e. relationships or money) that crate your outer reality. It is those buried, suppressed emotions that surround your beliefs on receiving or giving love projected on those subjects that keep you in reactive, robot-like behavior.

If you feel that the way you have learned to give or receive love will be taken away, it will be more painful for to receive what you say you desire, even if you are unaware of it. Therefore, you will continue to create what you perceive love to be, even if it is painful, until you are ready to be fully responsible for what you create.

To change how you are experiencing life, you must change how you feel about what you are creating. To be okay with whatever was created as purposeful and good. Finding the purpose and good allows an instant acceptance of self. In time each experience will build upon itself and the acceptance you seek from others will be found within. Do not misunderstand what I am saying, this doesn’t not mean complacency if you desire to continually grow.

Complacency is a killer to the human spirit and growth. This only means to create a space for yourself that allows self to be okay and thereby fulfilled in every given moment. What occurs within is a feeling of fulfillment; this creates a feeling of a continued abundance. In abundance there is a feeling of limitless options. One can begin to change their circumstances by creating a basic foundation of feeling abundant through taking the following steps:

1) Cultivate within self, a desire, motivation and discipline that allows your dreams to become a reality.

2) Be willing to put forth the effort required to have your dreams fulfilled.

3) Have an ongoing belief in yourself no matter the perceived obstacles.

4) Persevere throughout your journey. Know that you and only you are the creator of your reality and no one can do anything to you that you have not chosen to experience.

As harsh as that may sound, it is a prevailing truth. ‘As above, so below,’ reveals a continuing ancient metaphor that tells us that whatever is on the inside of us expresses itself on the outside. If you desire long-lasting and unshakeable results to be in your life, know that this only occurs through internal changes.

Why Encourage People?

When I drove Mandy Evans back to the airport, she asked me an interesting question:

“Have you always encouraged people?”

She had spent four days with me and observed me encouraging complete strangers to go for their dreams.

There was an author at a booth and I bought his book and advised him on how to market it.

There was a waitress struggling to get to all her tables and I tipped her more than the bill to encourage her to have a great day.

There was the newbie restaurant owners that I encouraged by designing and distributing an insert ad to tell the locals about their great food.

There was of course Diane Watson, who is now The Property Hugger.

So Mandy wanted to know if I was always encouraging of others.

“No,” I instantly replied. “When I was younger I was angry at the world and didn’t encourage anybody. I was into survival and focused on trying to write, get published, and just generally survive.”

I knew what question was coming next, and I knew I didn’t have a quick answer for it.

“Then when did you start encouraging people?”

I thought for a long time. I honestly couldn’t come up with an answer by the time I dropped off Mandy at the terminal.

But I’ve been chewing on it ever since.

I told Nerissa about the question. As I free associated an answer, she said she heard the word “love” used a lot.

“Love is part of why I do it,” I said. “I love seeing a person come alive with the passion they secretly want to express. But I also know that when you love a person with total acceptance, they feel free to become whatever they desire.”

But I still couldn’t pin-point the time when I began to do this encouraging on a regular basis.

Pat O’Bryan and I had dinner one night and I told him the above story. He then began to probe, trying to get me to narrow down the year and possibly the event that caused me to become encouraging of others.

“I remember reading books that awakened me to the idea that if we focus on the good, we’ll get more good,” I explained.

Marva Collins is a school teacher in Chicago who taught me, through the stories and books by and about her, that when you focus on the positive in a person, and nurtured and encouraged them, they would blossom.

Marva took inner city kids that were considered retarded, special, and/or illiterate and transformed them within months into kids who read Shakespeare and tested at grade levels five times higher than kids of the same age.

Decades ago I was teaching adult education classes in Houston for a company called Leisure Learning. I would try the Marva Collins approach in my classes. I marveled to see people get excited, take action, and go on to write and publish their own books. They needed encouraged, not just informed.

Pat listened intently as I went on to explain that I also studied Win Wenger, the creativity genius who teaches people how to raise their IQ with simple exercises he created.

Win taught me that whatever you focus on expands. This was long before the movie The Secret or before the Law of Attraction hit mainstream media. Win called it the first law of psychology.

Whatever you focus on will expand.

“It didn’t take long for me to begin using these methods on myself,” I told Pat. “I’d encourage myself and focus on what I wanted. As it worked for me, I realized it would work for others. So I started encouraging people.”

I was also lucky enough to have been married to a woman who was supportive of every idea I came up with, even when we were broke and taking risks could have been seen as a bad move. But Marian focused on the good in me, saw potential, and watered it with her love.

Over time it became easier to encourage people because it felt good, I saw results, and people loved it. So few of us get support that when we suddenly have it, we drink it up like a starving person in the desert.

I’ve taught my Miracles Coaches this same general idea. It’s the prime directive of my life: Find the spark in a person and encourage it to come out in full glory.

Find the spark in a person and encourage it to come out in full glory.

During the meal, the waitress came to Pat and I and asked what we needed. Neither of us needed a thing. We were in the moment. We were happy. But I decided to ask what she needed.

“Nothing,” she said. “One day I want to open my own restaurant but right now I’m just waiting tables.”

Pat and I exchanged glances and he winked. He knew this was my opening. I turned to the waitress and began to encourage her to do something, anything, to make her dream come true.

I have no idea if she’ll actually do anything, but she smiled big and thanked me for the encouragement.

In your own case, as you sit there and read these words, you might ask who is encouraging you and who are you encouraging?

Who are you encouraging?

If you want encouragement, consider my Miracles Coaching program. There’s nothing like constant support and encouragement to achieve your goals and intentions.

If you want to encourage others, begin right now. Listen, really listen, when people talk to you. You’ll often hear their secret wish. When you hear it, focus on it, if only for a moment.

It’s how dreams come true.

PS — I thank Mandy for asking her great question. I still don’t know exactly when I started to encourage people, but I’d guess around 1982. Yet Mandy’s question led to some deep self-reflection, some deep conversations, and to this blog post. If you liked it, please share it with others. Who knows, you just might encourage someone to dare something worthy.

Note: Pat O’Bryan interviewed me about this topic last night for his weekly online TV show. It was recorded and you can view it at www.portableempire.tv/ Simply look for the 6-17-08 show with me. Then click on it. Enjoy.

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Meeting Louise Hay

She met us at the door and smiled, her eyes twinkling and her smile charming.

Louise Hay is the queen of the new age, law of attraction, think-it-and-you’ll-attract-it movement.

Her books are classics, from Heal Your Body to Empowering Women.

She’s 81 years old young and as vibrant as a teenager.

Her I Can! events are sold out pep-fests where people get enough juice to last a year.

Louise is known as one of the founders of the self-help movement. Her first book, Heal Your Body, was published in 1976, long before it was fashionable to discuss the mind-body connection. It was revised and expanded in 1998. It’s still considered a classic today.

Louise has helped me personally over the decades, without her knowing it, with her messages of insight and uplift.

I used to read her question and answer section in the back of Science of Mind magazine. It helped me hang in there and focus on what I wanted. It worked, too. Look at me today. 🙂

Given all of the above, you can imagine my delight to be able to have an evening with Louise Hay.

She invited me and my personal fitness trainer, Scott York, to her multi-million dollar penthouse overlooking everything in San Diego.

We were there for the Steve Reeves film and fitness festival, and to finally see the 1976 Jag XJS I bought that was originally owned by Hercules.

But the car will have to wait for another post.

The view from Louise’s penthouse was spectacular.

She poured champagne for us while she pointed out the park, the ocean, the airport, and the other buildings.

She loves San Diego, saying, “It doesn’t have any humidity or bugs.”

She took us to dinner at another high rise location, where we could see planes come in over the top of office buildings as they landed at the in-city airport.

But the best part of all was getting to ask Louise questions.

Her joy in life is to find new authors and promote them to the world.

She’s very excited to have acquired Abraham, brought to you by my friends Jerry and Esther Hicks. Their latest book, Money and the Law of Attraction, is already a bestseller.

Louise travels a lot. She has offices all over the planet. She had only returned from Australia two days earlier when we met her. She didn’t seem travel weary at all, though. She radiated health. Scott and I had traveled from Austin to San Diego that very morning and showed more exhaustion than Louise.

She has an office, and an assistant, right in her penthouse.

She showed me some of her paintings, too, which I imagine is a rare treat. I had never heard of her art interests before.

Our conversation covered many topics, including health.

She said almost every health problem had to deal with anger and resentment.

When she got cancer, she realized she had to forgive in order to heal. She knew her issue was with her parents.

She looked at their childhood, saw how they had been raised, and was then better able to understand and forgive them.

As a result, she is cancer free.

Surprisingly, she didn’t know much about me or my work. To resolve that, I gave her copies of The Attractor Factor and The Key.

I also told her about Operation YES, my upcoming infomercial on The Awakening Course, and other projects I’m involved in, including my upcoming Miracles Weekend.

Louise said she hadn’t heard anything about the Miracles Weekend. That’s when I realized I had marketed to my email list but not to San Diego. We can all use reminders. There’s always more we can do.

She let me pick from whatever book I wanted in her office and I chose Letters to Louise, which she autographed.

She offered a book to Scott, who said “You don’t have to do that.”

“I know I don’t have to,” Louise countered, smiling. “Are you just going to dismiss the good you are offered?”

Of course, Scott then accepted a book.

I asked what she thought of all the movies coming out since The Secret.

She said there are more Indigo children born today, and they don’t like to read. They need visuals. As a result, she made her own movie, too, You Can Heal Your Life.

I told her about a female friend of mine suffering from tumors in her uterus. I asked what Louise would do.

She said forgiveness, a nutritionist and a good oriental doctor would help.

She added that most women don’t take care of themselves because they focus on others. She said my friend needs to express her creativity and love herself, too.

But what if someone isn’t willing to change?

“They have to be ready,” Louise asked.

“Can you make them ready?” I asked.

“No one knows why each of us has the challenges we do,” she explained. “They have their lessons and we have ours. You have to take care of you.”

I asked her what book influenced her the most.

She said The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Shinn. (Hay House now publishes it.)

I asked her what book she’s reading now.

She said Success Intelligence by Robert Holden. (She said the photo on the book made the author look like he was twelve years old.)

As I looked around her penthouse, and saw the museum quality furnishings, I thought she reeked of prosperity. But Louise said she’s never focused on money, saying “I just ask ‘How can I serve?'”

Her first book was a twelve page pamphlet. It evolved into her bestselling classic Heal Your Body.

Three hours later, I hugged and thanked Louise for the evening.

I felt as though I had sat with a legend and was torn between asking loads of questions or just sitting in gratitude.

So I did a little of both.

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The What If Up Club

Mindy Audlin is one of my favorite people.

She’s charming, smart, upbeat, and a remarkable speaker and teacher. We held an event together two years ago where I first learned about her What If Up game.

It was life changing.

The best way to understand how it works is to realize the favorite question of the mind is “What if?”

But for most of us that question is asked in a negative, or down, way.

We ask “What if this doesn’t work out?” or “What if I lose my job?” or “What if I’m wrong?”

Obviously, that negative seeking question doesn’t feel good, and leads to attracting the fears it focuses on.

But Mindy asks you to do a what if UP.

You might ask, “What if this works out beautifully?” or “What if there was never a problem in the first place?” or “What if I get a raise?” or “What if my idea makes me a millionaire?”

This single adjustment in how you ask a question transforms you, your energy, and the very answers you get.

The idea is to look for new possibilities by letting your mind be free. When you do this, you feel fantastic. You also send this new energy into the Universe as an order or request.

I recently attended one of Mindy’s local (Wimberley, Texas) What If Up parties. That’s where people break into groups of five or so and take turns What If Up-ing each other. It’s very juicy and even addictive (in a positive way).

For example, when it was my turn, I said I want the infomercial coming out this week for The Awakening Course to be a top seller in the self-help market.

When you state your goal or problem, you’re not allowed to explain it or tell your story around it. It’s not needed. You simply state your desire and let the magic begin.

So I stated mine about wanting my infomercial to be a hit.

Someone instantly said, “What if it is the number one bestseller in all categories?”

Someone else said, “What if it is the number one bestseller of this century?”

Another said, “What if it is the number one bestselling infomercial in all of history!?”

At this point I was feeling electricity pumping through my veins.

Mindy explains that the exercise isn’t to create a to-do list. You don’t make notes or how-tos or to-dos.

The point is to raise your energy, get into the feeling of what you want, and let that experience attract the end result to you.

You still take action, of course, but it’s inspired action.

It comes from that place within you that feels great and naturally unfolds. You don’t have to make yourself do it; you want to do it.

A beautiful side benefit of doing the what if up exercise a few times is it changes your thinking.

Suddenly you start asking what if up questions in your head rather than what if down questions.

Check this out at www.whatifup.com You’ll find more information there, including how to host your own What If Up dinner party.

What if the site is the coolest thing you saw today?

What if it changed your life for the better instantly?

What if?

Dr. Joe Vitale shares how to attract money using the Law of Attraction and inspiration in business and life. You will learn the techniques that Dr. Vitale has used for over 25 years to become known as powerful leader in copywriting and marketing.

The #1 Self-Help Book

There are only a handful of books that have dramatically influenced my life. Considering how much I read (sometimes a book a day), that’s pretty sad.

There’s The Magic of Believing and The Robert Collier Letter Book.

But number one on the list is one you may never have heard of before: The Book of est.

It beat out Think and Grow Rich, and even the Bible. I know that’s bold and controversial. But it’s also the truth.

Here are two reasons why I love the book:

The book is the famous est experience in written form. est, or Erhard Seminar Training, was the controversial self-help movement of the 1970s and beyond.

Anyone who withstood the heat of the weekends was never the same again. Lives were transformed forever. You faced yourself and your story in a way that was confrontational and oh so real.

I never got to do est. I was a skeptic and a hold out. I made fun of it when I saw all the articles about it.

Truth is, I was afraid of it.

I was young and in college and unsure of everything, including myself. By the time I got around to wanting to do est, it was gone and reincarnated into something called The Forum.

I did the Forum and endorse it today.

But it’s no est.

The Book of est puts you into the room and gets you to feel the intensity. You somehow experience est.

And it’s hot.

When my late wife began to type up the book to be republished by me, she had to keep stopping. She said it was intense and dramatic.

She died during the transcription process. But that had nothing to do with the book. It had more to do with her choices and what the book urged her to face.

Obviously, a book isn’t a drill sergeant self-help instructor yelling in your face about what isn’t working in your life. But The Book of est comes close.

It’s safe.

It’s easy reading.

But it’s still real.

Oh so very real.

Just reading it can cause you to awaken to your own patterns. And once you see them, you can let them go.

Or not.

After all, what you get from the book is what you get.

But that’s only the first reason I love The Book of est.

The second reason I love this book is because the writing is, well, hypnotic. It’s riveting.

Luke Rhinehart has the gift of writing dialogue and description that puts you in the room with the characters experiencing est.

In many ways, this was one of the first examples I ever found of what I eventually labeled as Hypnotic Writing. While I later wrote a book called Hypnotic Writing, it was Luke Rhinehart who paved the way for me to know what it was when a true master was at work.

For me, this is one of the best written books of all time.

The author wrote some other cult classics, too. The Dice Man is a masterpiece. It’s well written, engaging, humorous and in some ways dangerous.

Just like The Book of est.

But where The Dice Man is alive and well in print, The Book of est has been gone for decades.

Search on eBay or Amazon and you might find original copies going for one hundred dollars on up to a thousand dollars. I’ve paid that much for copies, too. I collect them.

The Book of est is one of the rare life changing gems that I can’t get enough of or read enough times.

Sometimes I give the book away. Usually I don’t. Usually I just keep it for myself, as one of the most powerful books of all time kept hidden in my own secret vault of wisdom.

The good news for you is this: Luke is now a friend of mine. We’ve corresponded, shared books, and decided to join a partnership. With the help of my friend Mark Ryan, the most powerful self-help book of all time is now available to you.

And all you have to do is go here to get it as a downloadable ebook –

www.thebookofest.com

Go see.

I dare you.

PS – est was all about being real. The Book of est will challenge you as never before. How? And why is it the greatest self-help book of all time? Go see for yourself at www.thebookofest.com I double-dare you.

Dr. Joe Vitale shares how to attract money using the Law of Attraction and inspiration in business and life. You will learn the techniques that Dr. Vitale has used for over 25 years to become known as powerful leader in copywriting and marketing.

How to Treat People

A reader watched my DVD, Humbug, and emailed me this question:

“Was there one point in your life that was the turn around? I often ask people who’ve obviously hitched themselves to a Saturn 5 rocket the same question.”

I get that question a lot.

I’ve been thinking about it long and hard.

I know that taking on the attitude that anything is possible is part of the answer. So is knowing the Law of Attraction and the idea that getting clear leads to preferred results. So is always saying yes to life. And so is the idea of being ruthlessly honest about your desires.

But those are mindsets I’ve developed over time. They don’t answer the question about the single event that changed my life.

The thing is, there’s no “one point” where everything shifted for me. It was more a series of defining moments, some more memorable than others. For example:

Landing the book deal to write The AMA Complete Guide to Small Business Advertising for the American Marketing Association back in 1993, was a marker for me. I wasn’t paid much money (almost none) but it was my first book deal with a traditional publisher and the project made me feel accomplished and important. It also got me more clients and more speaking engagements. (I still love the book and use it myself, though sadly it’s now out of print. Some of it ended up in my book, Hypnotic Writing .)

Recording my program, The Power of Outrageous Marketing for Nightingale-Conant in 1997, was another turning point for me, one I had longed to have for over ten years. People who knew that company and their wonderful products began to treat me like I was a deity in the marketing world. That also influenced my own sense of value. (That’s also when I raised my fees. ) The program still sells like crazy today, and I’m still very proud of it. (One of my favorite sections is where I stage an interview with the great circus showman and master marketer, P.T. Barnum.)

Certain people helped me step up to a new level, as well.

Paul Hartunian changed my life. This publicity genius who once sold the Brooklyn Bridge as a PR stunt and got on Johnny Carson for it, once spent three hours over dinner in Houston telling me how to change my business. I took notes. I acted. Paul’s giving was a defining moment in my career. I’ll never forget him. He’s one of my heros.

Mandy Evans has been a “miracles coach” in my life for more than twenty years. This wonderful author of such books as Travelling Free has always been only a phone call away. Whenever I feel stuck and ready for the next level, I call her. I love her. She helps me get clear .

Bob Proctor — a living legend in the self-help movement — changed my life when he politely nudged me to publish the little book I was fearful about releasing, Spiritual Marketing. That book became an Amazon bestseller twice, got me into The New York Times, and led to my rewriting it and seeing J. Wiley publish it as the now long running classic, The Attractor Factor. And of course that book got me into the movie The Secret, which led to my being on Larry King, eXtra TV, CNN, CNBC, ABC, Time, Newsweek and…well, you get the idea.

Obviously, there’s no one event that transformed me.

If you want to know more, I’ve written about my journey through life in such books as Adventures Within. It reveals other defining moments and the people who triggered them for me.

I really wish there was a simple answer to the question of what was my turning point moment, so we could both learn from it. But what may be better is to assume every moment is your turn around one, and act from that perspective. Life would then take on a glow .

Backed into a corner, and forced to say something was the one thing that changed my career, I’d give credit to the Internet.

I began as an Internet skeptic in the early 1990s. I didn’t believe all the hype about gold in cyberspace.

I was wrong.

I later wrote one of the first books about online marketing (CyberWriting).

And later, when Mark Joyner urged me to let him release my first e-book (Hypnotic Writing ), I began to taste fame and fortune.

So I have to give credit to being active online as a turning point in my career. (Note I said active online. I was and am busy creating and promoting products, not waiting for the world to come to my door.) The Internet let me take what I was doing locally and distribute it to the world.

But, as you can see, it was one of many defining moments.

Maybe the best way to wrap this up is with the following story:

I’m hearing from people from my past who saw the movie The Secret and then searched for me online. When they get to my main site , they write me and ask something like, “Are you the same J.V. I worked with thirty years ago?”

One gent did that a while back. Turns out we had worked at Exxon together long, long ago.

He saw me on Larry King and couldn’t believe my level of success. He wrote to me saying, “I wish I had known what a gem I was hanging around back then.”

I thought, what if each of us treated each other like we were gems already — just unrecognized and maybe unpolished.

Wouldn’t that single change of perspective make every moment of our lives a turning point?

As Goethe wrote, “Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them become what they are capable of being.”

PS — A way to get a turning point moment for yourself is through Miracles Coaching. I believe that trained mentors can help you leap to the next level, and I still employ them for myself today. Expect miracles. And remember, every moment coun

Dr. Joe Vitale shares how to attract money using the Law of Attraction and inspiration in business and life. You will learn the techniques that Dr. Vitale has used for over 25 years to become known as powerful leader in copywriting and marketing.

Is The Law Of Attraction Real?

By Samantha Knowles

The Law of Attraction has been getting quite a bit of coverage lately. Interestingly, the concepts and practices have been around for hundreds of centuries and have been practiced by many of the very best minds (Einstein, Aristotle, and Beethoven). The truth is…we all use it- we just don’t know it. The premise is this: what you focus on is what you attract into your life.

The Law of Attraction- How does it work? The Law of Attraction works like this: you create your own reality. What you focus on, what you emote about, is what you draw into your life. What you believe will happen in your life is exactly what does happen. This isn’t as simple as it seems, however, or everyone would have the lives that they want naturally. For example, people who are in debt and continually tell themselves, “I need more money,” don’t find more money, they continue to “need more money” because that is the reality that they create.

School of Thought #1: Spiritual

Many people believe that the Law of Attraction works by aligning God or the Universe with our wishes. We are all made of energy, and our energy operates at different frequencies. We can change our frequency of energy with postive thoughts especially gratitude for what we already have. What we attract depends on where and how we focus our attention, but we must believe that it’s already ours, or soon will be.

School of Thought #2: Scientific

If you come from the camp that you need facts, there actually are quite a few that explain how the law of attraction works. By focusing on attaining a new reality, and by believing it is possible, we tend to take more risks, notice more opportunities, and open ourselves up to new possibilities. Conversely, when we don’t believe that something is in the realm of possibilities for us, we tend to let opportunities pass by unnoticed.

The Law of Attraction – Is there any proof?

It is pretty hard to prove all of this scientifically, however research does show that people displaying optimism have greater happiness, live longer, have more financial success and seem to have better health. These all certainly would be good indicators to at least give The Law of Attraction a real try.

One of the foundations of therapy is that changing yourself talk can change your life in a positive direction. And millions of people have found success with positive affirmations

The Law of Attraction – Now What? So now that the spiritual and scientific caveats of the Law of Attraction have been discussed, a natural next step would be doing begin trying to understand your own thought patterns. Do you think positively every day, or do you let your thoughts wander to the bad place. Begin to take note of your overall thinking pattern and get yourself on the way to harnessing all of the power of the Law of Attraction

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Is “Bright-Sided” Critical Thinking?

I saw Barbara Ehrenreich, author of the book Bright-Sided, on The Daily Show with Jon Stewart last week. Her book reveals “How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America.” I love Jon Stewart’s interviews and was keenly curious about this author and her book.

As I watched Ehrenreich on television, I got the feeling she’s a wounded soul. She talked about being diagnosed with cancer and how people around her told her to just think positive. I know from having my own cancer scare a few years ago that her feelings were justified. When you’ve been diagnosed with the C word, you’ve been kicked in the gut. Smiling people don’t help. I felt for her and agreed with her. Positive thinking in that dire situation isn’t welcome, at least not at first.

As I often do after seeing a Jon Stewart interview, I jumped on Amazon and ordered her book. I was so curious that I paid extra for next day delivery.

It’s a well written historical overview of positive thinking. It mentions all the positive thinkers you might guess, from Napoleon Hill to Joel Olsteen , Jack Canfield, Will Bowen, Bob Doyle, Rhonda Byrne; to the teachers in the movie The Secret, including me.

Turns out Ehrenreich heard me speak a few years ago at the National Speakers Association annual convention. There were more than 6,000 people there, so I never met her. But I apparently left an impression. She says in her book –

“Vitale, who looks like a slightly elongated version of Danny DeVito, offers the theme of ‘inspired marketing,’ and also love. ”

Inspired Marketing is the title of a book I wrote with Craig Perrine, and love is the core of everything I do.

But Ehrenreich didn’t say either fact.

She mentions I’m a disciple of P.T. Barnum in her book, too, but doesn’t explain that’s because I wrote a popular business book on him, titled There’s A Customer Born Every Minute.

For a journalist, she cleverly left off statements that would justify what I, and others she mentions in her book, stand for and teach.

The message of her book seems to be to use critical thinking, not positive thinking, in order to make a difference in your life and world. For her, positive thinking can be delusional, while critical thinking can give you a well-rounded view of your choices.

I agree with her.

The thing is, most people who say they are critical thinkers are actually skeptical thinkers. They quickly dismiss concepts without trying them, or demand scientific proof for concepts that are still being researched. That, to me, is delusional.

The most powerful books I’ve read on the subject of critical thinking are by Steve Siebold. His books are wake-up calls to your brain. Read his book 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class, or Die Fat or Get Tough, or read his forthcoming book on mental toughness secrets of the rich.

While I prefer positive thinking over negative thinking, I have to admit that positive thinkers can sometimes be blind to reality. When I had my cancer scare, I didn’t just think positive. I also took massive action. I searched for cures, I contacted all the healers and medical doctors I know, I tried every method offered to me, and I stayed persistent. The end result is a clean bill of health. But I didn’t get there by putting on a happy face and sitting in a corner.

Bright-Sided is a bestselling book and Ehrenreich is getting lots of publicity for it. While she ends the book with a call to be more critical in our thinking, and to take action to get results, I suspect it will mislead many readers. Too many will jump to the conclusion that positive thinking doesn’t work at all. They’ll use the book to justify not being optimistic, or not choosing to feel good. They’ll just keep on complaining.

My reminder to you is that you always have a choice: When confronted with any moment, you can look at it cheerfully, unhappily, or objectively. I prefer the latter but with a positive expectancy.

When I got the heath scare, I at first was walloped with the news. But then I set an intention to find a cure. I expected one because, as I say in my book The Attractor Factor, there’s always a way to handle any problem. My critical thinking — or maybe it’s better called objective thinking — included the possibility that positive action and positive expectation would be better than just unhappiness, happiness, or no action.

I appreciate critical thinking, but it’s subject to delusion, too. Most of the people I know who claim to be critical thinkers still have limiting beliefs and negative attitudes they aren’t even aware are in their own head. They are actually skeptical thinkers as a form of self-protection.

Combine all this with the Law of Attraction and you might see where critical/skeptical thinkers will find evidence for their beliefs, and positive thinkers will find evidence for their own beliefs. They’ll simply attract what they need to support their mindsets.

So how do you get out of this maze so you can have a clear-headed, productive life?

For me, the fastest thing that helps you get mentally clear is having the right coach. I know I’ve said it before but it needs said again: Every high achiever I know has a coach in their area of expertise. The coach can help them see their thinking patterns. The coach can help them stay accountable. The coach can help them achieve the results they want.

If having a coach is part of what Ehrenreich condemns as something that has “undermined America”, then I have to disagree with her. In fact, I’d go so far as to suggest she get a coach to help her unravel her own thinking about “Bright-Sided” being negative. It could also help her heal her psychic wounds.

But as she openly says, it’s “reckless optimism” that bothers her the most. With that in mind, I suggest she’s correct. You don’t want to be recklessly optimistic, but practically optimistic.

In other words, choose what you want, have an optimistic expectancy about the results, take action to attract it, and monitor your progress for feedback and course changes. That’s how you make practical use of the Law of Attraction.

That’s not being “Bright-Sided”, that’s being smart.

Finally, decades ago I had a landlord who made fun of me for reading success literature, such as positive thinking books.

I was struggling, broke and unknown at the time. I was paying him two hundred dollars a month to live in a dumpy little room in his house. I didn’t look like I was going anywhere in life.

He caught me reading a Norman Vincent Peale book (probably Enthusiasm Makes the Difference) and said, “You believe that shit?”

“I sure do,” I said.

While at the time he questioned me I had no evidence for any future success, and any critical thinking person could have dismissed me as a dreamer, today I’m wealthy and well known.

Was it because I read positive thinking books?

Was it because I chose to be “bright-sided” about life?

Was it because I took massive action and kept a positive expectancy about my future?

What do you think?

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“I Love You” to Zero

In the book I coauthored with Dr. Hew Len (pictured below with me), Zero Limits, we explain that your unconscious mind is a database that needs to be cleaned of programming. It’s what causing you to attract what you have in your life. We also say that Ho’oponopono, the Hawaiian healing method described in the book, is a great way to do that cleaning.

Recently I’ve been reading books in the filed of neuropsychology and modern brain science. They prove that our unconscious mind is running the show. The conscious mind, the part you think is the driver in the game of life, is oblivious to all that is happening. In many ways, due to the programming in our unconscious, we’re robots. We rationalize our decisions and behavior, but where they originated was below conscious awareness.

For example, in hypnosis a person can be given the command to open a window. Later, after they’re out of the trance state and given the signal to trigger the command, they’ll get up and open a window. When you ask them why they opened the window, they”ll rationalize the action with statements such as, “I needed some air” or “I smelled smoke.” They will never explain that the behavior stemmed from a command in their unconscious.

Ken Eisold’s book, What You Don’t Know You Know, is all about our hidden motives in life, business and everything else. Those hidden motives are hidden from even us. They are in our unconscious. We, as conscious beings, simply act on what the unconscious prompts us to do.

Shankar Vedantam’s book, The Hidden Brain, explains how our unconscious minds elect presidents, control markets, wage wars, and save our lives. Again, it proves that the motor driving us through life is in the unconscious, not conscious, mind.

Since we are so unconsciously driven, does that mean we aren’t really responsible for what we say or do?

According to Vedantam, “We have responsibility for not only our conscious minds, but our unconscious minds as well.”

Back to Zero Limits. In our book, Dr. Hew Len and I explain that you are 100% responsible for your life. No if, ands or buts. No loopholes. No exceptions. It doesn’t matter where you think your motivation came from — unconscious or conscious — if it’s in your life, you are responsible for it. Note that you aren’t to blame, but you are responsible.

Given that our unconscious is hidden, powerful, deep and running the show, how in the world do we clean it up so we stop attracting messes?

Psychotherapy, popularized by Freud, is one way. But according to Dr. Eisold, “Today, there are over four hundred distinct psychotherapies.”

Four hundred!?

According to Vedantam, “Making the unconscious conscious is difficult because the central obstacle lies within ourselves.”

Well, what are we to do?

How are we going to clear the unconscious?

Here are some suggestions:

1. Miracles Coaching. When you have a skilled coach listen to your story and repeat it back to you, focusing on what you may not be hearing, you have the opportunity to make the unconscious conscious. Nothing works faster in getting results than having a Miracles Coach and taking right action.

2. The Missing Secret. This bestselling audio CD program offers step-by-step help in getting clear. There are several methods taught, and you can do them as you relax and listen.

3. Finally, in Zero Limits, we explain that the way out is the way in. The best clearing method I know is the one explained in the book: just silently in your mind say non-stop, “I Love You, Please forgive me, Thank you, and I’m sorry.” And if you want the shortest mantra of all, just say “I love you.”

“I love you” is the fast-track to Zero – that ultimate state of purity. But Zero is contaminated with programming. To get back to Zero, we need to get clear.

I’ll continue to report on other ways to clean the unconscious mind of its negative data, but for now, what could be easier than saying “I love you”?

Dr. Joe Vitale shares how to attract money using the Law of Attraction and inspiration in business and life. You will learn the techniques that Dr. Vitale has used for over 25 years to become known as powerful leader in copywriting and marketing.

Simple Methods To Prepare Your Mind For The Law of Attraction

The science behind the law of attraction got a lot more attention within the last couple of years. Men and women begin to understand more and more that they themselves are responsible for the things taking place in their lives, all because of movies like “The Secret”. There isn’t any absolute certainty the law of attraction work, regardless of the thousands of books written about the subject no one is 100% sure. The theory states that your thoughts are like a magnet which attracts everything it thinks about. Your thoughts, emotions and visions all function together to attract the things you feel, dream and think about. The better you research the law of attraction the better you will understand that this world outside is a reflection of your inside world.

This could be difficult to understand initially, specifically if you, like 99.99% of the world’s population, have been raised to respond to outside circumstances. Every person’s mind were conditioned since childhood about how the outside world doesn’t have any basic cause and it affects the inside world. We were all taught to think a certain way with our conscious mind; little do people realise that it’s actually their subconscious mind that have control of their lives. When studying the law of attraction techniques, always remember that reading is simply not enough and action is essential for long lasting change.

Research have revealed that your subconscious mind can handle 1000s of tasks simultaneously but your conscious mind can only handle one task at any given time. A teenager taking driving lessons can be used as an excellent example. A person who learns to drive for the first time can only focus on only changing gears, steering, stepping on the gas or braking at a time. You had to drive a car for hours before your subconscious mind took over several of the tasks which means you could do them naturally. In the same manner your subconscious picked up on how you thought, felt and did things since childhood and these habits still rule your life right now. Being aware of what exactly is the cause of our current believes, we have the power to change our feelings, visions and thoughts for a much better life.

You know what the law of attraction means, but do you really understand the law of attraction? The origins of the law of attraction go more deeply into your subconscious than what you may think. You can’t basically just watch a film or read an ebook and think your life will change, you’ll want to take action each day to print the brand new believes into the subconscious. Start to do everything within your power to understand everything you can about the law of attraction, it’s that important. Listed below are 3 ways that can help you with understanding this subject better;

1. Books – Bits and pieces about the law of attraction can be found in lots of books, not one book has all of the answers for all people. The more you read the more it will start making sense. It’s like building a puzzle. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill is most likely where you would want to start your reading. Genie Within by Harry W. Carpenter is yet another superb but less known book. Finding out how to take control of your subconscious mind can be like having your own personal genie.

2. Practise daily – You will need to train your mind daily to accept the ideas of the law of attraction. Start to see the things you do want in your life and look past the things you do not want. Take notice of positive thoughts and feelings and give no attention to negative or bad thoughts and feelings. You have to be consistent, all day, every day.

3. Be patient – Changes will not happen instantly, if only it did, but it will not.Time is needed for your unconscious mind to accept the new thoughts and believes. Consistency will make sure you see results.

The law of attraction is after all a law. This suggests it’s a guarantee, the same as gravity guarantees you to have weight on the earth. Isn’t that wonderful news? Think and feel a certain way all throughout your day and you will have guaranteed success.